In the movie Good Will Hunting, Matt Damon’s character, Will, wanted to dump the perfect girl before she discovered his imperfections and he discovered hers. His therapist, Sean
(Robin Williams), called him on it.
SEAN: So call her up, Romeo.
WILL: Why? So I can realize she’s not that smart, that she’s [bleep] boring? Y’know, I mean this girl is like [bleep] perfect right now, I don’t wanna ruin that.
SEAN: Maybe you’re perfect right now. Maybe you don’t wanna ruin that.
[Sean goes on to say that accepting the so-called flaws in someone is what creates the bond—a sacred sanctuary built with the safety of love.]
SEAN: My wife used to fart when she was nervous. She had all sorts of wonderful idiosyncrasies. You know what? She used to fart in her sleep. One night it was so loud it woke the dog up!
[Sean loved his wife, fart and soul! Like the song: “Fart and soul. I fell in love with her fart and soul!”]
SEAN: The little idiosyncrasies that only I knew about—that’s what made her my wife. Oh and she had the goods on me, too. She knew all my little peccadillos. People call these things imperfections, but they’re not. Aw, that’s the good stuff. Will your partner love you, fart and soul—look behind the fear and see the love— look behind the flaws and love you through it?
Can you be who you are—warts and all—when you’re with who they are?
If not, move on!
You deserve true love . . . fart and soul.
Jimmy Brandmeier: Be Who You Are, A Song For My Children